Being yourself, this is the BIG buzz nowadays. All you hear about is “being yourself, being your true self, and being your authentic self.” Hold the presses! What the hell is that all about? I thought I was being myself! What do these people mean? If I’m not myself, then who am I?
I remember when this wasn’t even a question in my mind. The questions I asked myself were more along the lines of, “What should I do with my life? Where should I go? What do I really love?”
When I reflect on those times, I recall it being a very restless time for me. I spent my life jumping from one thing to another. Trying to do something with my life, anything, even though I didn’t really know what I wanted to do. All I knew was that my life didn’t feel right. I felt lost, unfulfilled, out of place and disconnected.
This was not the way I wanted to feel. Something had to change. This is when I realised that there might be something to this expression, “being yourself!” So, here is where being yourself comes into play.
Are there times in your life you find yourself feeling shy, being quiet in a new environment, and not speaking up? Even when what you want to say is right there, sitting in your throat? You can feel it coming but your will to speak seems to be behind lock and key. Later, you bash yourself up for not saying anything!
There is so much insecurity in your core that everything you do feels a bit awkward. You want to be the “good girl.” You do everything you think you should do. You are doing all the right things, but yet life still doesn’t feel right. Those are experiences that can be an indication that you are not being your true self.
Being who you really are is screaming out, yes this is me and I really don’t care if you like it or not! Being yourself is being free to be a little crazy and off the wall, yet not caring what anyone else thinks about it.
Being yourself is being so connected to who you really are, that it frees your ability to make decisions. It makes it easier to connect with people and easy to live the kind of life you really want to live. You no longer have to force anything, you just have to be.
Now the question remains, “How the heck do I know who I really am?”
You have to dig deep, you have to create the space to connect to who you really are and what lights your fire. This space will also allow you to connect to what holds you back, which is a very important part of integrating who you really are.
Being yourself brings out a whole new world for you. A world that will feel right to you, and you will then be able to carve the path that has been waiting for you all along.
Being yourself is easy, it comes naturally when you open up. But you MUST embrace every little part of you, the ones you love and the ones you don’t, they are all the little pieces that create the amazing piece of art that you really are.
Here are three steps to help you become more of who you really are…
1. CONNECT – Make time to silence your mind and listen to your soul. Meditation and journalling are wonderful tools to do so.
2. DISCOVER – Once you make time to connect with yourself, you will start discovering what is waiting for you inside, all the internal voices that you find hard to listen too are there. With connection comes discovery, SELF DISCOVERY. You may even ask yourself, What would I like to do today? What will get me really excited? Or even what is holding me back? – Journal that, meditate on that, and discovery will come!
3. VIVA !!! – Start living bit by bit what you discover along the way. you may discover that you get super excited when you sing aloud to your favourite song (I know I do), you may discover that your heart is craving a little me time, and you may even discover that your life is already awesome and you just need to top it up with some soulful icing and VIVA, you are on your way to being your awesome self.
Connecting to who you really are is a process, don’t expect it to happen overnight. Instead, slowly start bringing in things and testing them out. If you feel like taking guitar lessons, try it out, if it doesn’t turn out and you don’t enjoy try something else. Or even just ask yourself, “What is it about taking guitar lessons that made me excited?” It might just be that you just love music so much that it needs to be more a part of your life. Play your tunes, go to a gig and sing like a fool. Light that fire up, let it run through your body and it will all start shining through you.
Happiness comes from being you, from doing what gets you excited, and not from doing what you SHOULD be doing. Go rescue that shining soul of yours, it has so much to offer you, your world will never be the same again.
I get so excited about this, I love seeing the shine in people’s eyes when they connect to who they really are, so much so that I like to call myself the real self midwife, so if you are ready to give birth to that amazing baby that is you, check this out and join me for an adventure that will turn your life around for the better.