When I first embarked on my journey of transformation I remember my coach telling me about the Saturn Return and how I was most likely right in the middle of mine.
At the time I didn’t give it much thought, but I was utterly intrigued by the information she gave me.
Once I started reading about it all I was like OMG, this is it, this is happening and it is all starting to make sense.
The questioning of my life, the internal revolution, the big shake up by the universe and its lessons and the cleaning up process that soon followed.
I was shocked and amazed by the understanding of the whole process and how it affected me (still is!). The universe is amazing and astrology is just such an incredible tool to help you understand your journey and your experiences. I couldn’t recommend it highly enough for anyone who is going through those transitions in life.
And so I was so happy to cross paths with the beautiful Danielle from A Life Worth Loving, she is an astrological counsellor and Saturn Return specialist. She is a kind and generous soul full of wisdom and astrology magic. Our session together was so insightful and beautiful and I am forever grateful to have encountered her and her blog home. Her content is beautiful and since most of my clients are smack bang in the middle of their Saturn Return, I invited her over to share her wisdom with you and help you develop a better understanding of your own journey of transformation, she has some great tips on how to navigate those challenging times of change.
Don’t forget to head over to her blog and check out her beautiful content, so much goodness there, I look forward to reading everything she brings out. She has also got an ebook coming with more comprehensive information about the Saturn Return, so keep your eyes out for this, I am looking forward to reading it too.
Over to you Dani….
So the big ole 3-0 is fast approaching and life is suddenly starting to feel a little…different, eh?
With your twenties coming to a close your life may be feeling full of new responsibilities, challenges, tough choices, and daunting changes – some of which may be awesome, others may feel downright awful.
Perhaps you’re sitting there wondering what the hell you should do with your life, or wondering what the hell you have done with your life to make it the way it is today.
Or, maybe you’re feeling an undercurrent of anxiety because you know deep down that gigantic change is right around the corner and you’re staring into the great unknown.
If this sounds like you and you’re 27, 28, or 29…you’re right on time girl.
Welcome to your Saturn Return.
Some of you may be scrunching your brows seeing those two words together, while some of you may have heard of this term before and know a bit about this challenging process.
Here’s a refresher for everyone.
Put simply, every 27-30 years, Saturn ‘returns’ to the same place it was in the sky the moment you were born. With its return, you are asked to review the past 27-30 years of your life and implement changes based on what you’ve learned so far.
Whoa, big task.
But before I talk about what all of that means, let’s back up for a moment to speak a bit about astrology – the study of our relationship with the cosmos.
You and Your Story
When you were born, you were not only given a name, but your sweet baby soul came in with what astrologer’s consider a type of ‘soul map’ if you will – otherwise known as, your birth chart. This holistic image is full of symbols representing the placement of the planets in the sky as viewed from where you were born.
The exact time and place of your birth places a significant role in shaping the story of your life going forward; a story complete with a plot of dynamic characters otherwise known as the planets.
And, I must say this: the planets are not in control of your life. Instead they serve as mirrors that reflect the characters living within you at any given time. What’s fascinating is that we all have these same characters, we just have different story lines to express how these characters interact in our lives.
So now that we understand that very basic short-hand perspective of astrology, allow me to introduce you to Saturn, if you haven’t already met him.
The Big Bad Wolf
In ancient astrological teachings, Saturn was the last known planet in our solar system. It therefore served to represent, the end…you know as in the big one – death. As you can imagine, Saturn grew a pretty rotten reputation because of that and was known as the bringer of all things bad and terrible. People were scared shitless of Saturn.
That was until we got to meet some other planets way out there in space and realized Saturn wasn’t the end after all. So, we invited Saturn over for tea and apologized for being such a jerk with all the name calling, and we finally learned hey, Saturn’s not all that bad. In fact, he’s pretty badass!
And though it’s true, Saturn does represent some hardcore stuff, including but not limited to: boundaries, restrictions, compression, depression, endings, and so on, he also represents commitment, solidity, responsibility, maturity, form, perseverance, patience, determination, and wisdom.
Most notably, he represents structures. The most important structure we know of is our body, a form which houses our formless spirit. Without it we could literally do nothing. We couldn’t experience the wonders of existence; we couldn’t play, or create, nothing.
Our form actually gives us the freedom to enjoy and express life. And this is the great paradox that Saturn teaches us — that structure can actually provide us with freedom. It’s when we resist structure that we feel the pain of limitations.
So what does this have to do with you and your Saturn Return?
Well, in regards to understanding Saturn’s presence in your life thus far, you would need to look at your chart to see where he ‘lives’ in your own life – the area of your life that is infused with lessons, blocks, and challenges. Once you know this, you will know the focus of your Saturn Return. A talented astrologer could help you with that…(eh hem) yours truly, for example.
Trials and Tribulations
Generally speaking, your Saturn Return is your coming of age story – your initiation into adulthood and into a greater understanding of who you are in this world. I like to refer to it as your very own hero’s journey that calls you onto a great adventure into the depths of your soul to uncover your truth so you can become the authority in your life. Authority is a fun word because it has the word “author” in it – so essentially, you get to write the story of your life the way you want to read it.
And though this process is a turning point, and will definitely feel challenging and dreadful at times, it is quite liberating and freeing. Because during this time, you are amidst a sort of cumulative review and, you get to decide what you will take with you on the road ahead.
Therefore, it’s also a pruning period that will ask you to get rid of any excess that is getting in your way of fully living your truth.
This means throwing out old b.s. (belief systems), getting rid of unhealthy behaviors or friendships, leaving dead-end jobs or unfulfilling careers or relationships, releasing yourself from societal pressures to do this or that, and it asks that you claim your place in the world and carve out your territory.
How does this happen?
Saturn is like the cosmic juice extractor, and the juice it distills is your Soul essence or, your truth. Saturn puts you through the juicer of tests and trials and through a process similar to masticating, which is interesting because teeth are also represented by Saturn. And after it’s done chewing you up, your unique essence is what remains with a a whole lot of pulp left over for the trash.
It’s not exactly a pretty and clean process, but the leftover juice is where all the nutrients of your divine elixir resides. And that elixir is your unique medicine – your gift to this world. No one else’s will taste or heal quite like yours. This essence is why you’re here and it’s part of your purpose to discover it and own it and share it with others.
What does it feel like?
Here are some words as described by some of my clients:
Terrifying. Hard. Exhausting. Like you’re running a marathon with absolutely no training before hand. Shitty. Tested. Chaotic. Unpredictable. Painful. Introspective. Insecure. Confusing.
Are you clenching your teeth yet? Yeah, not fun.
Yes, you may have a lot to deal with and feel like you’re not equipped to handle it. You might also feel overwhelmed, burdened, depressed. You may begin to realize you’re longer a kid, even if you still feel like one inside. And even if you have kids of your own by now, you may feel like you’re wandering through the dark without a flashlight.
You also may have feelings of exhilaration and excitement for what’s ahead, but they may be quickly replaced with feelings of dread and fear.
You may be in a relationship or job that no longer seems to fit, or you may be feeling that inner mama clock ticking, ticking, ticking away and the call to parenthood is ringing off the hook.
Or maybe you’re one of the few who is cruising through this time in your life and catching the wave of change with grace. God bless you child. You are one in a million.
But if you’re not, if you’re struggling to keep your head above water, if you feel like everything is crashing down and you want to crawl under a rock and hide like I did- hang on. You might be navigating especially troubled waters due to other planetary transits happening alongside your Saturn Return like it was for me. That can make it worse.
But I can tell you this, just like any storm, it’s going to pass. I promise.
I’ve been there and so has everyone else over 30. You’re going to make it through. Trust the process and know that wherever you are in your process is exactly perfect. You’re right on time for you. Go at your own pace.
Life isn’t a race and we’re all headed to the same destination at the end of all of this anyways.
But keep in mind, if you try to evade whatever lessons are showing up for you during this time, beware. You cannot avoid the hand of Saturn. He will return again in 27-30 years with another 27-30 years of lessons for you to review. And I don’t know about you, but I certainly would not want to sift through 57-60 years of lessons.
So do yourself a favor and befriend Saturn now, once you do Saturn will reward you with confidence, clarity, and courage like you’ve never experienced before.
How do you do that?
Here are just a handful of ideas on how to align with your Saturn Return:
–Establish structure and routine in your life. Create systems that support your productivity.
– Discipline yourself, which basically means, become a disciple to yourself. Be the person YOU want to follow.
– Find your voice buried deep down inside of you. Let it speak up and be heard.
– Establish boundaries. Learn that saying no is actually saying yes to yourself.
– Commit yourself to something: marriage, a graduate program, buying a home, becoming a parent.
– End outworn commitments that no longer fit who you are becoming. Yes. You don’t want to hear this, but if you’re considering it, break up or file for that divorce you’ve been pondering for years.
– Start paying your own bills — wait, you’re not doing that yet? Yes, it’s time to be a grown up.
– Start saving. Set up a financial plan (I wish I did this one).
– Act responsibly. This doesn’t mean be boring. It means, learn about yourself and practice awareness, responsibility is the “ability to respond”. Respond authentically to what life presents to you.
– Clean up your act. By the time your late 20’s roll around, the days of a no-big-deal hangover are long gone. You will feel the effects of time and age. Start treating your body with love and care and it will last longer and feel better.
My biggest recommendation: find a guide or mentor you trust to help you in times of need. This can be a therapist, a coach, a teacher, or an older friend or family member. Look for someone who has been where you are and can be a pillar of hope and wisdom for you.
If you’re wondering how to cope with all of this heaviness and intensity, you’re not alone. I searched and scoured and researched my face off and ultimately stumbled upon what wound up to be especially helpful during my Saturn Return.
Journal: Write. Barf your thoughts and feelings onto the page. Put everything down and hide it somewhere safe, or do what I did and send yourself emails, that way no one can access them other than you.
Move your Body: Your Saturn Return can feel draining, depressing, and exhausting. You may not want to move your body, but it will really help in moving the energy through more effectively. Yoga was my go-to practice as it let me be internal yet external and fluid with my process.
Green Juices: If you’re not already keen on them, this is a good time to give ’em a whirl. Giving myself the gift of fresh, organic green juice everyday saved me. It was how I nourished my spirit when feeling bogged down.
Connect: Jac O’Keeffe describes depression as the ego turned in on itself. When you’re really going through it, you may be wrapped up in your own shit, so don’t forget to reach out to your friends for support and offer your support to them. Helping others usually takes us out of our own misery and helps you remember you’re not alone in this world.
So there you have it…you’re are on the precipice of great transformation. I’m excited for you!
May your hero’s journey be an epic tale of your hard-earned glory and wisdom.
Blessings and love,
She spends her days reflecting on the magnificent miracle of life on Mama Earth and is dedicated to sharing her love for life (and astrology) with the world one special human at a time. Her life-enhancing astrological counseling sessions are infused with practical bits of wisdom, deep insight, and hilarious sprinkles of truth.
When she’s not diving into the depths of birth charts you’ll find her dancing in the aisles of health food stores, speed reading, jamming out to some tunes, or nourishing her insatiable intellect with an inspiring podcast.
She currently lives in Northern California with her beloved husband and her two sweet pups, Hero and Halo. Stay tuned for the release of her upcoming book about how to navigate the Saturn Return. For more information visit her at alifeworthloving.com.