This week on Inspiring Journeys we have the gorgeous Mia (27) from Your Spicy Life. I have met Mia a little while ago and she is the most gorgeous and shining soul you will meet. I can feel this very powerful and yet subtle heartfelt energy from her and I believe everything she does, comes from a beautiful heart space. Mia is a health coach and make up artist from Sydney Australia, together with her friend Jess, she is on a mission to inspire you to spicy your life up daily so you can be real, be free and live your dream.
Sometimes we believe that our journeys and struggles aren’t worthy of a voice because they are not based on a major life adversity, I love how Mia has jumped onboard and shared with us her journey with dealing with teenage year troubles and bitchness at school. I believe those situations to play a major role in pushing us in a direction of loosing ourselves, loosing confidence and getting off track. Sometimes we feel those are minor experiences, but the massive role they play on our subconscious mind can have a big impact on our daily life and how we develop as adults.
So one message that I want to share with you from Mia’s interview from me is…
Own your story and your struggles regardless of what they are. Each journey is unique and important. Not one suffering is greater than another, because your struggle is the greatest thing you have experienced and it shouldn’t be compared to someone else’s journey. Honour your experiences, they were beautiful lessons that have helped create your life path.
Mia – Your Spicy Life
Tell me a bit about your journey, the difficulties and bumps you have encountered along the way?
I feel like I’ve had a very privileged life so I don’t really look back on my life as having had any major hardships but rather experiences that have helped me grow.
I think my story is something a lot of people can relate to, I was the shy girl in school, extremely insecure and unsure of myself but I was also a dreamer. I always had this knowing that it was possible to find something you were good at and passionate about and do that as your career. I think because my parents are Chiropractors and that is their passion and purpose in life so I was lucky enough to know from a young age that it is possible.
The only problem was I had no idea what my passion was until a few months ago. So I spent a lot of my teens and early twenties living for the weekend and getting wasted, not that I’m complaining, it was fun. I lived with my best friend of 26 years and we had so much fun and we still look back on that time in our lives fondly.
However, there did come a point where I was sick of feeling like shit all the time and had no real direction in life. So I started looking into healthy foods and their benefits and became really interested in health and wellness. I started looking up health blogs which then lead me to the profession of a health coach. I thought becoming a health coach would be a great way to expand my health knowledge so I enrolled in the Institute for Integrative nutrition.
I then decided to start a health blog called Chia Mia so I could share all my healthy recipes. I got such a great response from this that I started feeling a sense of purpose in life and made some amazing friends through it.
However, as much as I love making healthy recipes and sharing them on my blog I still felt like it wasn’t my real passion. So I decided to go back to square 1 and figure out who I was and what really made me happy.
While doing this I realised that since I was young I was a major girly girl that loved make up and was just fascinated by peoples faces, beauty and how you could bring out peoples natural features or completely change a face to create a character. I would spend hours on fashion and beauty sites but would always feel guilty doing this as I would tell myself it was superficial and a waste of my time.
Then one morning it just hit, I should become a makeup artist. As soon as I realised that I felt this amazing surge of energy and I felt so excited about it, enrolled in makeup college the next day and I’ve been lucky enough to be able to learn from some amazing teachers every week, I still find it really hard to believe that I can actually do this for a living because I just love it so much.
The belief that everyone has a passion and has everything they need within them to follow that passion is something I share with my friend Jess. We both want to give everyone the tools to help them get rid of negative beliefs that hold them back from living their best life. So we started up Your Spicy Life which is just as big of a passion for me as being a makeup artist. We offer tools to help people develop an unshakable belief in themselves as well as beauty and health tips, because who doesn’t want to look and feel great while they are off killing it at life?
Describe yourself before your journey of transformation/awakening.
From the ages of 17-23 I was two different people. On the weekend I was ‘drunk Mia’ – she was fun, outgoing, flirty and a bit (very) insane. Then there was ‘weekday Mia’ – who was tired, unmotivated, only concerned about the way she looked and had no spark or passion. ‘Drunk Mia’ did have a great time and that’s not to say she still doesn’t come out every now and then ha ha. I just feel as though ‘weekday Mia’ no longer exists as I now wake up most days with passion and purpose.
Do you feel anything in particular contributed to your journey? (Anything pushed you towards your struggles, bumps and traumas?) What has been the most significant change in your life?
Last year I traveled to the US and spent 2 months there. While I was there I became quite close with someone who has made a very successful career out of their passion. Knowing someone personally who was doing great things with their life and career re affirmed to me that there is no reason I can’t do it too. I have always looked up to people like Oprah and Jim Carrey who have created something from nothing. However, being able to get to know someone on a personal level and see it firsthand really gave me that kick up the ass I needed to figure out what my passion was and then take the steps to start living that.
I feel like this Elizabeth Gilbert quote explains the situation perfectly:
“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave. A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master…”
That’s not to say that your soul mate can’t be your partner or your best friend. I believe that we can have multiple soulmates that all serve a different purpose.
Looking back, do you now understand that the difficulties you went through were a part of your journey? And if so, what have you discovered about yourself through going through your experiences? What is the most important thing you have learned about yourself?
Absolutely! I have learnt that I have a very strong intuition and know when something is not right. I always get this feeling in my stomach when I feel like something isn’t quite right and in the past when that feeling came up I would ignore it and tell myself I was just being scared or paranoid and then when the situation presented itself I would realise my intuition was right.
That feeling in my stomach has never been wrong, so I’ve learnt to always trust my gut.
I know people say that all the time and it’s easier said than done but if you do the inner work and really get to know yourself, you’ll start to get more familiar with that feeling and tell the difference between nerves and intuition, 95% of the time it will never lead you astray.
I won’t ask you what advice you would like to have given your younger self because I know your younger self wouldn’t have listened. But what you wish you knew back then?
I read a quote a while back from Jennifer Lawrence that simply said “Don’t worry about the bitches in high school” – simple but true. I think I let bitchiness from girls at school get to me way too much when I was younger. As a result I became very closed off for many years. In hindsight none of that bitchiness mattered and it was all coming from their own issues, I put myself through a lot of anxiety and stress for nothing.
What has been your most important life lesson?
It’s OK to be vulnerable. I spent a lot of my life shut off to the world and never let myself get into situations where I could be vulnerable, like being in a serious relationship or standing up for what I believed in. Over the past 2 years I have slowly let myself open up and put myself in some very vulnerable situations and come out a better, more fulfilled person because of it. There is definitely strength in vulnerability.
What was the main belief you had to change in your life in order for you to be able to move forward?
That I was not worthy of success and love. I always looked at my friends and people around me and had absolutely no doubt that they could be whatever they wanted in life and have amazing relationships. The problem was I never really believed that I could have all of that. I think it came from experiences in school when I was growing up, any time I would do well in class or do something to stand out in school I would always get shut down by girls in my class. As a result I just stopped trying in school and life in general in order to avoid any conflict. However I always had this internal struggle of so badly wanting to be seen and heard but at the same time not wanting to make myself vulnerable to criticism. So over time I built up this belief that living my best life was not possible.
I’ve gradually started to get rid of this belief over the years using tools like visualisation, EFT (which Jess introduced me to), meditation and journaling.
Jess and I talk about the importance of these tools over at our site and through our weekly emails.
If you were to give an advice to someone who is feeling lost, hopeless and struggling in life right now, what would it be?
I would tell them to watch the documentary ‘Finding Joe’ or even just this youtube clip of the story of the Golden Buddah which you can find here. I think it explains perfectly how we are all born golden, then things happen in life that create a stone around us. In order for the stone to fall away sometimes we have to go through some shit so we can start to open up again and let the gold shine through. So just keep chipping away at that stone!
Three words to describe yourself now?
Passionate, happy, make-up obsessed.
What is the funniest thing you have ever done or your most embarrassing moment?
I once jumped off a 30m cliff in Borocay in the Philippines while drunk to impress this guy. I got really bad whip lash, bruises all up my legs and couldn’t move for the next few days. In my defence he was a male model and beautiful and now I can say I’ve been cliff diving, so it was totally worth it… I think.
What is your most heartfelt belief in life? Share your message with the world! What are you most passionate about?
I really really really believe that everyone can find something that they are great at and passionate about, it can even be multiple things!
It just starts with really getting to know yourself. I know that sounds weird because you’re with yourself 24/7 but I feel we can all be so easily influenced by our surroundings and other people’s opinions. We rarely take the time to sit with ourselves and figure out our own needs and find out what excites us in life.
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Mia – Your Spicy Life
Mia is one half of Your Spicy Life, a site she started up with her friend Jess. They created this site to help you spice up your life daily by providing backed by research tools and techniques that actually work to help get rid of your limiting beliefs so you can be real, be free and feel that ‘knock your socks off’ passion that’s just dying to come out. They also offer health, beauty and mindfulness tips that will assist you in spicing up your life!
Inspiring Journeys is an empowering interviews series with women who have overcome life’s adversities and turned their lives around, finding themselves along the way.
I have started this interview series because I believe that we all have the power to turn our lives around and find a new route, a route that is guided by our heart.
The universe has funny ways of shaking things up and making us wake up to what is really important in life and what we are here to do, embracing our challenges and growing from our experiences is a wonderful gift.
I have invited some beautiful and inspiring women to be a part of these series and I am so happy to share their journey, wisdom and heartfelt messages with you.
My wish for you is that you find hope, inspiration and courage to follow your heart and use your struggles as your own opportunity for growth and transformation.